Today we are sharing Sandie’s incredibly personal story—one that speaks to the deeper struggles many individuals face after having an abortion. All too often, these struggles can cause individuals to turn to harmful substances or contemplate suicide. It is also a story of the profound impact your support has on the healing journey of those burdened by guilt, shame, and feelings of unworthiness.
In 1992, Sandie was full of hope and promise when she fell in love with the man of her dreams. But this relationship quickly spiraled into a destructive cycle marked by abuse, substance use, and neglect. After discovering she was pregnant, Sandie went to Planned Parenthood, where they talked about locations where she could get an abortion. The father of the baby and his parents were not happy about the pregnancy, but decided they would welcome the baby into the family. However, Sandie was pressured to have an abortion by her father, who didn’t want the church to know his daughter was pregnant. Under his demands and her own internal turmoil, Sandie made a decision she would regret for the rest of her life: she chose abortion.
The experience was devastating. The clinic was cold and impersonal, and they moved people in and out like cattle. As Sandie lay there, she could feel her soul breaking as her baby’s life was taken. The guilt, regret, and emptiness that followed consumed her. For years, she convinced herself it was the best decision, but deep down, she knew the truth. No matter the circumstances, nothing could erase the trauma she had experienced. She felt as if she had thrown away a life, and she hated herself. After the abortion, she lay in bed for a week, bleeding, alone, wishing for death. Her abortion left a deep, lasting wound that she thought of every day.
The emotional toll weighed heavily on Sandie, contributing to depression, suicidal thoughts, and a sense of unworthiness that plagued her for years. Even after she had children of her own, the guilt never subsided; she felt she did not deserve her beautiful children. It wasn’t until she found faith and the forgiveness of Jesus that she began to heal—slowly. Only then did she come to terms with her past.
Although Sandie had experienced the love of Christ, she still felt stuck and knew she needed a deeper healing. She came across a Life Choices flyer in the stall of the women’s bathroom at her church. It was about healing classes for abortion, but it took her another year to summon the courage to come forward. Sandy finally joined the class, where she met other women that had experienced similar pain. That is when she realized she was not alone and received the healing she needed to move forward in her life.
This story is a reflection of the pain so many women and men carry with them for years. The trauma from abortion, especially when compounded by feelings of guilt, shame, and emotional brokenness, can leave a person in a state of despair. Often, this leads them down dangerous paths like substance abuse and, tragically, suicide. It is not uncommon for individuals to wait years before seeking help.
This story highlights the critical importance of providing real healing for those who have experienced such pain. For these individuals, healing isn’t just about physical recovery—it’s about forgiving themselves and knowing they are forgiven by God. Life Choices offers Biblical classes that address the deep wounds of the heart, mind, and soul caused by abortion. The classes offer a path to redemption, forgiveness, hope and healing.
I want you to know the impact you are making in providing the necessary care, advocacy, and resources to help those who feel worthless find their value in Christ once again. John 8:36 says, “If the son sets you free, you are free through and through.” (MSG)
By helping fund programs that not only save the lives of babies, but also focus on emotional and spiritual healing, we can make sure that people like Sandie are not left to suffer in silence, carrying their burdens alone. Together, we can give them the opportunity to heal, find peace, and reclaim their lives.
I cannot thank you enough for your support and belief in the importance of saving lives and restoring hope to so many. Your partnership brings life, and life more abundantly.
Below you will find a brief video of Sandie and Stacey, our Healing Choices Director, talking about Surrendering the Secret, a Biblical Bible Study. If you or someone you know is struggling after an abortion, please do not wait for healing to come to you. Contact Stacey at 720-449-3056 or healingchoices@lifechoices.org
Will you continue to support this ministry and send a tax-deductible gift of $30, $45, $60, or any amount? If you have not partnered with us, would you consider becoming a monthly partner or pray about increasing your monthly giving? Again, thank you for your heartfelt giving and support of life.
